Don't put up with it anymore

Gathering At the Well

Put up with what?

Lust and Sex in today's culture

Oh. Thinking about it, it is a good subject. And those confronting two words, I think I have some things I can write about it. Here are the discussion questions:

  • In what ways can you help the men in your life fight this battle?
  • Find at least one other scripture to meditate on that will aid you in this fight.
  • Talk openly and honestly with your husband and children about these struggles. Shine the light on this dark place. Let them know that you are there to fight with them.

Amy's post is very good as always. The first part interesting. Click here for Amy's post.

Now back to what I had planned to write. It would have been helpful if I had written it down.

This is sort of an incriminating subject isn't it? I suppose I can't speak for my husband and sons really. So only can comment on myself. I have had four teenage boys in my home during the years, and one husband. He is the only partner I have had, so I have only the experience of this subject with one man and Mum and step-Mum of four boys in our home. Yes, I am glad I have the girls next, though have no idea how hard that is going to be in comparison yet.

In our home lately, we have the music channels back on a pin number that only I know. We stopped watching the Michael Jackson videos, I finally said they were too much and the girls accepted that. Our son wasn't really watching them anyway. The Country Music Channel I am now only watching the request show or the Spotlight on a certain artist. Random country songs usually is a mine field.

That actually bothers me that country has sex and alcohol always attached to it. And because we live in that kind of place, of utes, cb aerials, love of football and netball there is a lot of drinking. Yes, it was hard for my son at one point, but he has found his way through the maze and I am pleased for him.

We don't go and borrow movies, except the Love Comes Softly series, which is fine of course. We did watch the movie Australia, and it had one scene. Thankfully very short.

This subject is new to me, and has come up because of strangers. After the small amount of attention shown, the love songs and the pictures, video clips have all taken on a new meaning for me, I know "get it" I suppose, or at least something more than I did before. Yes, it has become a burden, but Amy's post makes you realise that it can become much much worse. It is so sad. I am able to stay away from it. The worst thing I find each year, is saying to myself I am not going to watch Australian Idol, and then watch it anyway. We are due for a new season soon, I think anyway. I think the American Idol, is perhaps better, though I haven't seen a lot of it. There was a lot of explaining to the contestants of the value of this to sell their music last season.

I have been talking honestly with my husband, but I think that has made things harder for me. In order not to offend, what if it puts me off men altogether? How do you deal with the attention of strangers especially if you are unsure what is going on, if anything? How come the Bible doesn't condemn what effect this may have on the woman? Why only the men? That just means I think that I don't know much about this subject matter. I don't think it would help me to know more. I think we really are from different planets, Mars & Venus.

Is their attention anything to do with the media, or just an attraction. Are attractions made more magnified by the media thing. I think this is true. This becomes an issue if you are married of course. I wonder if it makes it harder for singles to have one life partner if they see too much before they find the right person.

I just think the whole relationship thing can be against Christianity on a lot of levels. The headiness of the relationships so exclusionary. (Of course with husband's and wives this is how it should be. See this article. Anyway I found an excellent post on this recently, view here. It is about modesty.

"Consider the following examples: “a modest home,” “a modest income,” “Mary was modest about her achievements.”

The measure of the modesty of the home or the income is not whether or not some isolated person manages to be covetous, but whether on average, these are showy or impressive things. And the measure of Mary’s modesty about her achievements is not whether or not Sue is jealous of them, but whether or not Mary is making a big deal out of them, being sure that no one could fail to know what she had done..."

The same goes for lifestyles. Having this experience of a new person to love, is like having the best of something.

Anyway those are my thoughts and I hope to learn something from reading the other posts.


scrappy quilter said…
I haven't put up with this for years although in some areas it has crept in. Dancing with the Stars is one of them where they dress very provacatively. We don't have non-Christian music in our home nor do we watch MJ. I haven't listened to country music in years...Ihaven't liked the words in the songs forever. Books are mostly inspirational and TV is pretty much a non issue because we don't watch much. I can't speak for my hubby, however we have tried our best to have a home where all this "junk" doesn't come into it. Our younger kids have grown up with our high standards and don't have a problem with it. Are we over protective, probably and yet it doesn't bother me in the least to be this way.

Have you seen little girls clothes lately? It's unreal. Our C who is 19 can seldom find clothes she wants to wear. It's a sad state we live in as far as I can see.

Great topic!!
Joyfull said…
Great post for today's subject. I agree with your decisions about what comes into the home. We have to keep a close eye on the influences our children see. As a mother of 3 boys, I try to stay alert.
Danton said…
Quite interesting. Will have to re-read this one later.
shopannies said…
I agree this is a very hard subject to deal with I have 3 teenage boys and their are influences around them daily that they must face. We talk openly and alot but often I am shocked about what they say others are doing or how do they handle situations they face. It is an ongoing saga that is for sure
Amy Bayliss said…
It is most certainly difficult no matter where you live. Men are simply wired differently. The most effective weapon we have is prayer. I'll be praying for you and your family. I know it is hard.
Joyce said…
Hi, Linda,
I enjoyed reading your thoughts on this difficult subject. What comes to my mind is I John 2:16, "For all that is in the world, the lust of the flesh, and the lust of the eyes, and the pride of life, is not of the Father, but is of the world."

To me, this verse is a reminder that the problem of lust is an OLD, problem, going back to the Fall.

This verse is also a call to vigilance. Knowing that there is part of us deep down that responds to lust, we know ahead of time to be on guard, and cry out to the Lord for wisdom and protection.

May the Lord bless you and your husband in this worthy fight!
Linda said…
Thank you Joyce, that was a lovely comment, and I love the scripture.
Linda said…
Thanks for mentioning it.

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